Metta. Loving kindness is a cornerstone of Buddhist belief. Most of us would agree that we need more loving kindness in the world, and compassion also. It’s easy to say that, but to cultivate it to all living things is different.
For example, some would say that they could never kill an animal, but yet they eat meat. Some would say they can’t kill a living thing, but then kill the insect that they find in the home. Where does it begin and where does it end? These questions and answers are not easy, and I can’t say that I have the answers to those dilemmas.
As I study more and more, and put what I read into practise, the concepts become more attainable and accustomed. For example, when I was at the office yesterday I came across a surprise that startled me. By the fax machine hung a spider from the ceiling and gave me a fright. Now, I don’t like spiders and never have – I’m even too afraid to kill them. Everyone around me heard my fear, and my coworker came by and killed it. But, as I sat at my desk, I felt saddened. I didn’t want it to die; I just didn’t want it near me. Some may say it’s crazy to think of an insect with compassion, but who is to say my life has more merit than a spider’s?
It is true to say that we do need to take measures to protect our life and the lives of others, and to not kill unnecessarily is perhaps the better way to put it. For example, if your home is infested with termites, you will have to get an exterminator or they will destroy your shelter. For you to have safe vegetables and fruit to eat, insects had to be killed to protect the crops.
A way to help cultivate compassion is through empathy. If you can feel and understand what the other person or living thing is going through, naturally empathy will happen and you will have compassion towards them. Many times a day, I need to put myself in the place of others to understand where they are coming from. When the children on the floor above me make noise and I get irritated, I imagine what that child is going through. Most of the time they are playing and happy, or when times they are crying, I feel empathy. They may be sad or hurting, and if I can understand that, then I am not so much annoyed. But, I still need to practise. That’s why people call it “practising Buddhism” – it is a daily practise every day, not just for Sundays!
As much as we try to avoid causing suffering to others, it is inevitable. But, metta (or loving kindness) teaches to have compassion to those who suffer and to try to lessen their suffering.
Meditating on metta helps cultivate this attitude and feeling. I enjoy meditating on loving kindness. It helps me throughout the day, to not feel annoyed and irritated by other people because the feeling and mentality through meditation I can bring to my mind and work through the annoyance. But, I’m far from perfect as most of us are too.
We need to be more patient, empathetic, compassionate and kind to each other – family, friends and strangers. Whether you practise Buddhism or not loving kindness is needed more and more in this world.
14th Dalai Lama, Tenzin Gyatso – despite hardship, He smiles, an inspiration to all!
As the 14th Dalai Lama would probably agree is that we need more smiles in the world. Happiness too. And it can start with just you…